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Do I Really Need To Attend the Funeral?

Allred Staff • August 1, 2024

Your presence is important. If there is any way possible, please, just be there. When a child is born it is a life changing event for the parents, siblings and grandparents at the very least. It may also be a life changing event for the kindergarten teacher five years in the future. Bottom line, life matters.   

 

When a life ends, it is also a life-changing event. Regardless of the age at which the person dies or circumstances of the death, lives will change. Family and friends will never see that person again. They will not share in each other’s joy. Neither will they have the opportunity to heal old wounds. They will not hear that voice in praise, love or anger ever again. It’s over, and in some way everyone close will have to adjust to the change. 

 

The funeral, the gathering together, acknowledges a living person is gone. Your presence says, “Yes, this life mattered. And, yes, your lives have changed. But not everything has changed, you still have us.” Going is important.   

 

The funeral home is a safe place for the family to receive guests and their condolences. It’s ok to cry at the funeral home. In a few weeks when you see this friend of yours who lost her mom, you will want to say something. And when you do, the emotion will open up and the sadness will surface. Crying at the grocery store or the soccer field is uncomfortable for everyone.   

 

When people organize a funeral gathering and ask friends and family to come to them to share in their loss and sorrow, to help them. Please go, hold a hand, give a hug, share a memory, offer your condolences, and smile at the video. Let them cry in a safe place.

 

 

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Focusing on providing compassionate, dedicated, and personalized care, Allred Funeral Home offers funeral, burial, memorial, and cremation services to Berrien, Cass, and Eau Claire Counties, as well as surrounding communities in Michigan. From the moment you step foot in their location in Berrien Springs, you’ll feel the welcoming warmth of their tranquil facilities and empathetic staff. With Allred Funeral Home, they strive to treat your family as an extension of theirs, providing all families with the care and support they need during their most difficult times. They take care of the details, allowing you to begin a healing journey with less stress and more togetherness. Visit allredfuneralhome.com to learn more.

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